Content warnings: rape, trauma, sexism, gaslighting, harassment, intimidation, stalking, and general asshattery of a group of people in general and one rapist in particular. This is really long, and I am sorry, but it is mostly depressing. I know why my rapist wins. TL;DR: After a few years of intimidation and stalking behavior that drove … More Why I’m Not At Arisia Anymore: My Rapist is President. Again.
October 17th was International Pronouns Day! I tweeted a thread about my pronouns and gender presentation here. I’ve been thinking a lot about the evolution of my understanding of my gender, over the past few years. You can see some of it in the photos in my Twitter thread. You can also see a bit … More My Pronouns and International Pronoun Day
In terms of creating an inclusive event, a supportive environment in which everyone feels and (hopefully) is able to participate, there are many things that people can do to to set the tone and set everyone up for success. Here are some of my suggestions for moderators and panelists. Before the Panel If you’re the … More Moderator & Panelist Tips for a More Inclusive Event
Hello, friends. Are you thinking about the Alabama election and feeling some feelings? Astonished by how close the vote was, despite one candidate literally helping bring down the KKK and the opposite candidate openly wistful for slavery in America? Have you been realizing how few Black women you listen to, read, or even know? … More Listen to Black Women.
If society is unclear on the concept of “girl” not being “adult human” … society realllllly doesn’t know what to say about people who aren’t aligned with the gender binary (people whose gender isn’t male or female). … More More People Terminology
I travel with relative frequency. In just one month, I might be found in the US, Finland, the UK, and China. In fact, that was my September last year. … More What Does Crystal Do?
A bit about my work in China to increase translations of SFF between English and Chinese… … More Translation is Betrayal
Talking about sexism (and some racism) in Israeli tech. … More Visiting Israeli Tech: Sexist, Racist Responsa
A feminist slack I participate in is having a conversation about job interviewing, and it reminded me of my old list of questions when interviewing candidates to hire. I also frequently use these questions (or a selection thereof) when reverse-interviewing a company I’m interested in working with. These are meant to be conversation starting points. … More Interviewer/Interviewee Questions
Last year, I started a conversation about gender inclusive terms to address groups, and the discussion kept going over Facebook and Twitter for a few months afterward. I told myself I’d update the list and publish it here. After a fair bit of pondering, here’s what I and others came up with. What to Say When … More Gender Inclusive Forms of Address