Because I have event-organizing experience, I have sometimes been involved in coordinating the funerals of friends who are trans. I want to share some of my thoughts on how to do this well. … More Gender-Inclusive Bathrooms at the Funeral
I haven’t really been blogging since the pandemic started, but there are two things I want to make sure are on the radar of anyone who’s following this page: I edited and published a book, Recognize Fascism, in 2020. It’s a sci-fi anthology of 22 stories by authors from 9 countries around the world, published … More Two Small/Large Bits
Something that I appreciate about the pandemic taking more meetings online is that I’ve become part of a few local gardening groups. I would not have predicted this in 2019. I was too busy and I was traveling 50% of the time; my garden was my hobby when I was home. Last thing I wanted … More Pronouns in a Gardening Group
If I had read something like this a few years ago, I might have started paying reparations sooner. So in the hope that this helps someone else, here goes: … More Reparations, Especially Contributions to the Whitney Plantation
A recent workshop participant of mine said something along the lines of the following: “I’m not comfortable giving the pronouns I really want to use right now if other people might decide to use them outside of the workshop.” … More A Note About Pronouns, Introductions, and Safety
I really enjoyed the work I did on International Pronouns Day this year as a board member… … More International Pronouns Day: A Summation
I’m a folk music fan — have been since high school. So in my looking around for transgender and nonbinary works for International Pronouns Day, I went searching for music in my collection… … More Trans & Nonbinary Musicians & Music
It is Indigenous People’s Day. Everywhere I walk today, I am on indigenous people’s lands.
If you, too, want to acknowledge the lands you’re on in North America… … More Indigenous People’s Day in the USA
Content warnings: rape, trauma, sexism, gaslighting, harassment, intimidation, stalking, and general asshattery of a group of people in general and one rapist in particular. This is really long, and I am sorry, but it is mostly depressing. I know why my rapist wins. TL;DR: After a few years of intimidation and stalking behavior that drove … More Why I’m Not At Arisia Anymore: My Rapist is President. Again.
October 17th was International Pronouns Day! I tweeted a thread about my pronouns and gender presentation here. I’ve been thinking a lot about the evolution of my understanding of my gender, over the past few years. You can see some of it in the photos in my Twitter thread. You can also see a bit … More My Pronouns and International Pronoun Day